Big changes are afoot here at Chez Delinquent. I don't know if anyone still reads this blog and I guess for now it's ok if no one does. Over the past year things have gone all wee-wacky-woo-hoo and I've ended up as a single mom with three kids!
So ---yeah....divorce...the D word. When I tell people I get a lot of mixed reactions.
Most people say that they are sorry, which I guess is the "right" thing to say, but really, why would they be sorry? My marriage wasn't working and I think that everyone is better off now that we have acknowledged that and are moving in our own separate directions.
Some people want to know what happened. It's pretty hard to distill the issues that eventually broke apart a 15 year marriage into one pithy sentence that doesn't end up sounding a little bitter....so I usually just go with the standard, "We just grew apart." This is really just code for "A whole lot of crazy shit went down and if you really wanna know what happened you're gonna have to set aside a few hours and buy me a drink."
My favorite response came from a mother in my neighborhood who is one of those people who either tells it like it is or is a huge bitch, depending on your perspective. Frankly, I like her, you know where you stand with that woman....anyway, when I told her that I was getting divorced she replied "Oh thank GOD!" and proceeded to dish on my so to be ex.
Now my STBX is a nice enough guy, and I'm not blaming him for the divorce (well, maybe a little) but it was strangely cathartic to hear someone else justify my leaving my marriage.
Anyway...I'm not going to dwell. I'm happier than I was a year ago. Things have been hard, but they are getting better for everyone...I hope.
So I'm back, maybe no one wants to hear what I'm going to say, but that's cool. I've learned that sometimes you need to do stuff for yourself, and if someone else appreciates it that's just gravy!